@gardenghost I think it's not bad and a middle can be achieved which is perhaps the homework many don't want to do... most without that simply lose the ability to trust and love, and almost switch over and embrace the self-propelling doubt from not knowing or wanting to negotiate...
So positively still, it's all good until it's all ignorant, all possessive, all power, all perfectionism, all unnatural human contact...
Being good is a balancing thing between 2 or more... not only a loner thing I can measure and explain.