What's wrong with women celebrating themselves? Why does that make us arrogant or vain? Why can't we tell the world "I'm most definitely smart, strong, and gorgeous"?
I love to see selfies. I love it when women celebrate themselves. We are amazing and telling us to be more humble when the world is ALWAYS finding negative in us is nonsense.
I'm a cis hetero woman who loves the strength of other women. I love to see them celebrate themselves.
Sisters, you are amazing.
@Jennyjinx whenever I hear of some controversy involving genders I like to do a thought experiment (its so enlightening at times). So I think I'm going to say I'm most definitely smart, strong, and handsome. And If I say that, I might not be able to take myself seriously. FWIW (probably not much) I truly cringe at anyone using the term cis hetero. And yes, I'm not some neaderthal- I have several degrees. Doesn't mean I have to be a sheep and follow such fads. #mytwocents
@johnpotter I'm not being a "sheep". I'm being respectful of folks who identify otherwise.
@Jennyjinx I just don't like the term- its a little too precious for me. And I will NEVER use it- nor will anyone I know. The academics pushing such terminology have an obvious agenda - its not about being respectful. Its about changing societal norms and expectations.
@Jennyjinx I can understand that. And when I lead my own community 501c3 I really began to understand the need to be inclusive (voluntarily that is). But the cis hetero term is academic in origin and it just makes me cringe. If I have to- I'll say I'm hetero and leave it at that.
@johnpotter I would normally don't get as well. I guess I follow a lot of young Trans folks so I've seen some of those arguments. I wish we didn't need to distinguish ourselves based on sexuality, but for now? I'm ok with a little adjustment. It doesn't bother me either way.
@Jennyjinx Society does a number on female self-esteem in this society. Its terrible. Most men (imo) are clueless about that- and many fail to see a) how they contribute to that and b) the long-term consequences that follow.
@johnpotter I agree. Men are conditioned to be alphas (generally). Mostly confident - at least outwardly. Women are constantly told how to improve. My (former) dentist told me veneers would make my smile pretty. Before I fired him I said "My smile is beautiful". A lot of women can't see that in themselves.
@Jennyjinx please cheerlead away if it brightens someone's day
@johnpotter I used to feel that way. But I feel to be more inclusive I can change my language just a bit. It doesn't change who I am (and I think I'm pretty awesome). And I wanted to highlight that my post wasn't something sexual. I wanted to be uplifting.
I saw someone complain about a lovely woman sharing her selfies and that bothered me. It wasn't meant as an academic endeavor. Just a bit of cheerleading.