Fascinated by this portion of the NY Mag story where it talks about people who don't understand "why deadnaming a trans colleague was considered 'bad'"
Because it's not their name. This isn't complicated. No one is like, "Why is it considered 'bad' that I call my colleague Bob 'Steve'?" or "Why is it bad if someone updates their last name after getting married and I keep calling them their old one?"
When I first read that, I thought it was referring to the 2018 policy Twitter implemented (but almost never enforced) that counted misgendering and deadnaming as forms of harassment when directed at trans people on the platform, but no, this was seriously a guy who thought he was being super edgy by asking why it's "bad" to refuse to call a trans person by their name.
The obsession some people have with every aspect of trans people's lives is maddening. They're so angry that trans people want to be able to exist in society that they go through all these dehumanizing thought exercises that are like "Why should I have to treat this person like a human being?"
It's so gross.
@parkermolloy so very maddening, and also baffling. Like where the fuck is this fixation coming from?
@the_dan
In some cases, it's from the mentality, "I never had that, so you shouldn't have it either." They resent someone else being their authentic self, while they themselves are still living various lies.
@parkermolloy
