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This is funny and hyperbole but makes some important points:

reddit.com/r/linux/comments/4a

Those issues relate not just to dating, but in communication of various kinds, or where software use is expected / required. Yes, compromise is necessary, as of course I know because I have to compromise my values every day just to survive in society. With software that often means running proprietary software in some sort of container to protect my privacy, which involves lots of extra hoops and effort (which reminds me, does anyone have an old phone or tablet for sale on which I could install apps that people require me to use but which I don't want to give access to my real phone?).

Not only are we not treated as heroes or considered sexy for standing up for technological freedom, we very often are expected to conform to the software that people without these values use. Equality would mean that half of the time they would compromise and use free software, putting in the effort involved in doing so. There's only one time I can remember being accommodated regarding free software: at the University of Waterloo, a fantastic university, where everybody in my research lab was given a Linux computer to do our work, and we were also told that if we preferred Windows they would install it and accommodate us (but not a single one of us asked for Windows).

And the same goes for many other non-mainstream values, besides just software freedom / privacy. Compromising properly to live among people with different values would mean 50-50 compromises, but it always seems to be the people with the non-mainstream values putting in all the effort and compromising in order to connect with other people. But why not support someone's values even if they aren't your values? Like Sheldon in Young Sheldon who, though an outspoken atheist, goes to church to support his mother. If you want a travelling companion to get somewhere, why not offer to bike with an environmentalist 50% of the time, instead of offering them a drive 100% of the time, even if biking isn't your thing? If you want to eat with someone who happens to value food from farmers, why not eat food from farmers with them 50% of the time, even if you personally don't have a problem with grocery stores or processed food? Why not stand up for gender inclusion, even if you're cis gendered? Why not learn how to be neurodiversity-affirming in your actions, even if you're not neurodivergent? Why not build your house with a ramp, even if you can use stairs?

So sure, laugh all you want at that linked post, but having values that most people don't care about is tough. I say let's care about other people's values and not just our own.

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