This was written by my spiritual brother @SaddiKhali and I could not have said it any better so sharing it below...
Maybe, we can take the gender out of it long enuf to recognize a larger truth. Many of us (men and women) are on the slow, painful track of tryna figure it out. And many more of us (men and women) are only tryna use each other to numb the pain, only tryna hide our scars, only tryna lose on top. We are all struggling with something. We are all somewhere on the spectrum of wack to improving. We all wanna feel better.

But hurt people harm. Healing people heal. Broken people break. Loved people love. And we have all, at one time, been all of those, if we're really honest. We are all partially the products of alotta oppression, patriarchy and misinformation.

So many of us were parented by parents who weren't fully equipped to keep us safe and unscathed. Many of us were raised on a woman's disappointments and a man's failures. Many of us watched our parents struggle to get along. Many of us never received affection from a mother or a father. Many of us have experienced someone's absence.

Many of us were informed by people who were informed by people who were informed by the pervasive and devastating affects of oppression. Many of us are still reeling from our trauma.

There are, also, so many of us who are healing and getting healthier, who are rediscovering our authentic selves, getting our bodies, minds and spirits 2gether. There are many of us who are in or have been to therapy. Many of us are better equipping ourselves to become healthier people, spouses, parents, family members, lovers, friends, employees, bosses, entrepreneurs, etc.

Maybe we can do less blaming and punishing, and more recognizing our reflections, more understanding we can only win 2gether. Maybe we can talk to each other and ask questions and actually listen to the answers. Maybe we can be kinder, we can apologize, and we can forgive ourselves and forgive eachother.

Maybe we can even be honest, open and vulnerable enuf to love each other again, but healthier, this time. Maybe, just maybe...we can and we will. Maybe...