I hate dating apps but I think I convinced myself at some point that it was just enough effort to use them so I didn’t have to try irl but just hopeless enough that I’d never have to worry about actually getting into a relationship.
I went on a date recently that went really well and we’re going on another tomorrow
Its been about 8 years since my last serious relationship, and that only lasted a couple months. So I’m going to try and take these next steps slowly and carefully…
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I’ve been spending time self reflecting on this, how my relationship fell apart, and how it has impacted me. Here’s what I’ve taken away.
First thing is on incel and virgin as a derogatory terms. I thought I understood why this was funny and that I deserved to be made fun of, but now that I’m in on the joke I don’t see why these get a pass in the mainstream compared to other non-politically correct words. I might change my mind later but right now it just seems unfair imo.
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Second, I’ve lost all trust in my ability to evaluate people.
My now ex-gf got mad at me for things I agree I needed to work on personally but I’m realizing even if it was something I needed to work on, the way she presented the issues were not really acceptable from a partner.
I’m probably not cut out for dating or atleast I need to keep people at a further distance for a longer period of time and spend more time observing them instead of immediately assuming they are right
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And last but not least I am never, EVER using a dating app again.
Like seriously I understand getting upset with me or feeling unsafe around me. I’m a pretty weird guy. but calling the fucking cops? Even after I offered to pay for your uber home? What the fuck?
If thats the low roll, I’m never touching a dating app again.
Preferably never asking a woman that I don’t already know out again either.
Love and sex are really cool but that was NOT worth it in the slightest!
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@Unit i'd say it's probably more effective to just get shitfaced drunk in a pub or bar you like and see what happens.
i think you perfectly well described dating apps in the first post, they are essentially useless.