There's a strange part of me that doesn't want anything good to happen, because then I can't "regret" any of the bad that came before, because maybe the good wouldn't have happened without it, and that's just such a scary thought
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@OpenComputeDesign I guess being able to let multiple things exist in your head at the same time is a useful ability for many things.
Can you imagine that a good day might exist, but not erase the regret of the past - merely push it to the side of your attention?
@admitsWrongIfProven Well, the problem I have is, If something good wouldn't have happened without something bad, regreting the bad thing feels like wishing the good thing didn't happen.
I'm obviously not saying I'd want _more_ bad things to happen.
I guess the healthy thing to do would be to just accept that the past has happened, and it doesn't matter anymore. There's no point wishing bad things didn't happen in the past, anyway. It's done.
@OpenComputeDesign It seems like you ascribe some magical properties to wishing?
I do wish i had not been bullied in school, but i still want to keep the learnings i had from it. Not actually a contradiction, since i cannot change the past. More "dreaming of a nicer world", without accepting fake responsibility that nobody asked me to bear.
@admitsWrongIfProven Wishes are a bit useless if they aren't magic :P
@OpenComputeDesign They can help understanding oneself and communication with others.
Bit hard to make a pie so you can show someone that you wanted a pie. Better say "i wish i had a pie", right?
@OpenComputeDesign Well my example wasn't chosen very well, but with a better example it becomes more powerful...
"I wish i could fly to Pluto and explore" is way better than trying to do it to make others notice.
And for the self-knowledge, thinking about this could lead to understanding underlying, more basic wishes - not useless!
@admitsWrongIfProven I think "I'd like a pie" works better.
"I wish I had a pie" is more likely to be met with "Yeah, and I wish I was behind the wheel of a hotrod right now. So?" :P