Should I have a kid or write my fiction books?
@futurebird I've been thinking about your question all morning.
I have three kids, aged 32 - 42. Raising them was, by far, the hardest thing I have ever done. Each was their own unique person, who needed very different things from their parents.
For a long time, kids were the primary focus, which slowed down other things. I got fired from a tech startup because I wouldn't work into the night. Grad school took a long time, in between volunteering at school and cub scout meetings.
Having kids was the right thing for me and for my wife. We (mostly) enjoyed the time when they were little, and love having grown kids and grandkids.
I don't know how to give advice about kids, other than to look and other people's experiences, and then to make your own decision.
@futurebird @bwbeach
If I may give one piece of advice, then it is something I have learnt from work where I had to manage people laterally, i.e. without formal management authority.
If you can draw joy from the success of others you have led - even despite of sacrificing most of your personal time and energy - then children are your choice. They will return your every love spent, twice.
@futurebird @bwbeach
This is a great answer!