okay so now i have specific needs from an instance:

-general use, I want to post life posts and liveblog video games
-okay with un-cw'd food-- it's possible that ill be able to handle doing this once i get use to the cw as filter system, but at the point i'm at now, i need to be able to talk about food in certain ways
-won't be hostile to me doing as much fucking self promotion as i want and won't demand certain parasocial-friendly behavior to "make up for it"
-isnt defederated from my friends