note how love is utterly missing from all of this. life is all about Self-Actualization and Growing Up and Winning. her husband and children seem more an abstract, oppressive political entity than family, and friedan isn't even one of those political lesbian types - she was outright homophobic, considering men the only legitimate partners women could have, which just makes it all worse. imagine being so self-fixated you'd even *consider* choosing a ｃａｒｅｅｒ over your husband or your wife.

maybe this is because i have bpd and love is just a qualitatively higher order of thing to borderlines (from what i've seen from normies, i strongly suspect it is), but to me, relationships are what *matter* in life. work, houses, money, politics, education, everything else - it's all transient, a means to an end, and partnership *is* that end. lovers, spouses, and kids - those are the people you move heaven and earth to care for, the people you defy the laws of man and scorn the wrath of gods to defend. the idea of giving up someone you ostensibly love in order to pursue a career is incomprehensible to me, like a mortal human trying to comprehend cthulhu's politics.