Making friends - is that a fake notion?... fallacy and just aesthetics somewhat ?

Can someone teach / tell me what they think...

I think there is a bit of a fake fish or fake folklore here... yes you can of course have "hi/bye" friends with some chat in between, often harmless "small talk", but nothing much more than that unless it's really something else keeping you together like WORK as a colleague, free sof project, or PROTESTING against something...

So about real friends I'm not sure they exist more than those who already have their own line and it matches yours (with and without you) including

a) a person being friends generally everyone like "goodwill to all"

or

b) hates the XYZ authority and is willing to team up with people to achieve something ABC or band together (not alwys for life but on their own basis and maybe yours too).

maybe c).. d)... etc exists but anyway this is the basics

Maybe I don't know how to 'Make friends' because whenever you test a friend they are lacking in themselves and flop or get too offended or whatever chosen things instead of build with what we have together as 'friends'

Mind boggling tragic roundabout

Man I really hit good topics... and I'd like to know if I'm far wrong like parent or school that never told me and you find out 30yrs later !! (we all have that I'm sure!)