Mostly from ineffective communication and assuming what other wants. Happens when one or many people might be pandering to please you and without asking directly or by asking questions that might infer an answer (or be a bigger question that the other person might think) means you quickly reach the stage where you are wondering why you made those decisions at the end if neither of you wanted them....

You have to backtrack to find out where / who assumed or thought what about assuming what place you went to in conversation "because I thought that's what you wanted".

Does that make sense / have you had that before...

It's like asking if someone wants to go for a walk with you and the person is asking to serve you more than themself and you answer positively because you want to serve them more than yourself in saying "not really" so you both might go on a walk just because you wanted to please the other or for some reason it wasn't a clear "no it wouldn't be my first idea to do that..."

#AbileneParadox #Unclear #Decisions #DecisionMaking
#Politeness #Pandering #Guessing what is or isn't #Inferred