This is a reminder that "cut all toxic people out of your life" and similar calls to action are really meant to make you cut away your own support network, so that you're more vulnerable to the cult-like behaviors of the group.

@neo

I suppose that could be true if boundaries aren't made ahead of time. Care to elaborate?

@lucifargundam Back as early as 2012, what are now known as SJWs were encouraging people to cut all ties with family members who did (wrongthink).

Of course, they tried to frame it as being in the person's best interests, but it should hardly be shocking that it isn't.

If they truly meant well, they would have advised people on how to handle situations like mature adults.

They were intending people to replace their support network with """their fellow SJWs""", who of course would cancel you for the slightest mistake and thus were no support network worth the name.

It's much easier to go after someone that has no support network than someone that does.
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>>Back as early as 2012, what are now known as SJWs were encouraging people to cut all ties with family members who did (wrongthink).
<< I think I vaguely recall this, yeah.

>>Of course, they tried to frame it as being in the person's best interests, but it should hardly be shocking that it isn't.
<<People with agendas tend to convince whomever they help that they should live life per the agenda, yeah. That's nothing new, still messed though.

>>If they truly meant well, they would have advised people on how to handle situations like mature adults.
<<True, that _should_ be a primary step before even cutting ties- as well as follow-up behavior. Otherwise you're just a child acting out for not having your way or running away because someone's in a bad mood. Cutting ties isn't exclusive to mature behavior.

>>They were intending people to replace their support network with """their fellow SJWs""", who of course would cancel you for the slightest mistake and thus were no support network worth the name.
<< Yeah, that's just reinforcing/replacing codependency. That's not healthy.

>>It's much easier to go after someone that has no support network than someone that does.
<<Someone who's vulnerable to manipulation- yes. Someone who's genuinely trying to better themselves and not fall back on being codependent on other groups or people won't fall for that as easily, imo.

Just to clarify, I'm not arguing with you- I'm just saying that there should be more to it than that. Misusing the 'cutting toxic' out is just as bad as finding a new source of grief if someone doesn't know how to care for themselves.

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