@gwynnion Things change, but they change very slowly. Visibility and representation, you at least have some of that. But there's still people who hate Jews, and black people, and Muslims, and gay people. It takes ages.
When I was 20 I thought weed will be legal in Poland in the next ten years. I'm 45 and nothing has changed in Poland, but there are glimmers of hope in the US. It's a kind of progress, I guess.
You'll get there, and, for better or worse, we're likely going to see the major change happening before our eyes. When I was 20 virtually nobody knew what trans was. Now, while there's plenty of misinformation, the majority of people have at least some basic understanding, and there are glimmers of representation, in Congress even.
But yeah, people aren't great, I try to avoid them. I sympathize with your frustration.