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@Restraint The easiest thing is when their pronouns are in their profile so you can just look them up.

There /is/ something to be said for not /asking/ creatures their pronouns. (/Definitely/ don't use whether you think they're trans to decide whether to ask.) But what you can do is give /your/ pronouns proactively—right after your name when you introduce yourself. This is a hint that they should also give theirs. Doing this as a cis creature normalizes pronoun exchange, which is good.

If you're missing somecreature's pronouns, use they/them, the fallback pronouns.

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@moonbolt Can you think of a natural and not confusing way of introducing "use your favourite" as pronouns during introductions? I can, and likely will, use "any pronouns", but by itself this doesn't quite communicate the same thing. @Restraint@kinky.business

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@timorl (@Restraint) How about just saying that, like “Hi, I'm J Doe and my pronouns are whatever your favorite pronouns are”, or “Hi, I'm J Doe; for my pronouns, use your favorites”?

(Yes, it's weird, but it's /good/-weird. Normalize nontrivial|complex pronoun collections.)

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@moonbolt That's a _very_ good point, I'm probably still too worried about this because of the one time I screwed this up and said something that was kinda this description, but didn't actually make sense when you thought about it. >.< @Restraint@kinky.business

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@timorl (@Restraint) ah, yeah, I've tripped over an explanation many a time… x.x

nothing for it but to practice, I guess

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