One thing that fascinates me online is the huge range of perspectives when it comes to boundaries. On one extreme you’ve got “If you didn’t want to receive death threats then why are you existing in a space other people can access” and on the other end you get “Is it ok to email my friend a link to your public blog?”
Anyway. Set whatever boundaries you need to. People might not honor them. For my part I’ll try to. 💜
@dramypsyd Yeah I think that's why it's so important to frame this as a matter of politeness first and foremost, not a matter of hard and fast objective line drawing.
It's politeness. You should, out of politeness, out of wanting to live in society where people are happy with each other, acknowledge and respect other people's preferences.
And if you don't you might have some social blowback.
So do your best. But once we raise the stakes to frame this as objective line drawing it really complicates everything about it.
@volkris Oh absolutely! The boundaries I set to feel safe won’t be identical to yours. Plus a boundary can’t control another person’s behavior, it’s simply the guidelines I set around who I give access to. I also don’t get the appeal of threatening someone and trying to justify it