After I've been 'explained' my own personal experience after sharing some thoughts on a recently closed chapter of my life, I really stand by this old post about a patronising culture that keeps being very prominent in the #fediverse
And for the record, no you are not entitled to comment on my personal life or experience, or generalising to make your point, until you haven't engaged with my particular story in the first place.
@alx I think part of it comes down to the software interfaces to Fediverse not giving users enough control over their own experiences so they get the experience they're looking for.
For example, here the public nature of the Fediverse platform invites everyone to comment with little control by the poster over what he sees, or even who sees his posts.
I really wish Fediverse developers would focus more on empowering users to control their experiences.
@volkris in part I agree that somehow the UI doesn't allow for example to delete or remove others' comments, but tbh, I don't think it is much a matter of software, but of people. My experience here is by far much healthier than in other platform, but I noticed more than once that there is a tendency of 'light patronising', a general polite 'explaining' that derail the conversation and misrepresent it. People are people, beyond calling out and moving on, there is much else that can be done
Yeah, and it's especially difficult to build or shape culture on a platform that's intentionally split into different communities surrounding instances.
But one thing that's slightly technical that I think everyone on here needs to realize is that anything one posts goes out into the public and is outside of their control. There's really no privacy or control over content on this platform, which folks need to know when they post.
That part is just part of the framework. It can't be easily changed at this point.
All we can do is improve UIs to improve our own experiences, but the platform doesn't really have a way to do things like stop others from commenting.
It can only stop me from being exposed to their comment.
@alx yeah, and I'm especially worried about the #privacy side of things.
I know some users will post to #Mastodon / #Fediverse believing that they're restricting the audience of their posting without realizing that the restriction is basically a suggestion.
I know this because people have been surprised to find out how insecure it is.
@volkris I think the best way for now to be here is to assume that everything you write is public by default. I like however that when you send private messages Mastodon is upfront about the lack of end-to-end encryption, something for example Twitter never was.
@volkris yep, I think sometimes I still struggle with this idea that what you post is mostly out of control. Thank you for the precious reminder!