Some men learn that women want to "feel safe" around us and take that as "women want a beefy special forces type" and don't realize they just don't want to feel like we might hurt them someday.
There's so much focus on being "manly" in some "not great" ways but that's missing the point.
What they want are signs that we won't eventually become emotionally/financially/physically abusive.
Signs we're emotionally mature and have good communication skills.
Not Rambo.
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It's me: I was "some men" and I learned a lot of crap that women aren't impressed with before I figured out what I really needed to have as skills.
@Blenster Me too, took me way to learn that, but I eventually did manage to learn it.