This effectively means that the older I get, the less likely it is that any given new acquaintance really clicks with me. It's easy to understand, since everything I am and everything that forms my view of the world is a product of accumulation on my unique path, and there's no way someone will get it if their path has been very different from mine.
I often find myself in situations where I'm really frustrated because other people seem to be in a different world than me. In these moments I've wished that I could somehow make them see what I see.
There's a positive side to this concept as well. When someone really gets it... when you really feel like someone has been through similiar processes in thought, it's a great feeling. I don't mean that the other person must be my clone or anything, but there are these certain hard to describe things that have to match. Maybe you've felt it at some point, even if just in passing.
One of the reasons why I love being on fedi is because a lot of you get things in a way I can relate to.
It's hard to describe how glad I am to be able to share this very special time and place with you.
@moth_ball Maybe a helpful idea could be that you are not a _single_ vector. You are many many things (aspects of yourself) evolving in different directions at the same time. With this in mind, it's easier to think about relating to others. You don't need to always seek _fully_ like-minded souls. What you need is to find souls which are _aligned_ along _some_ of the vectors you are evolving along too. And that is easier. And I'd also say also more enriching: all the non-aligned directions of the other one (be it a friend, partner, colleague, etc.) become things to learn from - as far as the few mutually aligned directions are the important ones. I don't care for finding soul-mates to be "one" with. I seek equal partners to _share_ the world with.
