Every once in a while, a guy presses me about my experience as a woman in tech, expecting something rosy.

I say: "Imagine that all your same-gender peers for the first 15 years of your career…were not there. That was my experience."

You'd be astonished at the pushback I get because it is just so hard for them to conceptualize so many people in their career just vanishing.

That's how it is for women and many people of color in tech.