Learning about Trans community, CWed for length
So, thanks to Mastodon I've had more exposure to trans individuals than I've ever had before.
This is a good thing, as certainly I knew in the back of my head that there was something going over there, but not knowing anyone personally who's a member of that community I've not been able to actually have any meaningful personal contact with said community.
I admit some cognitive dissonance with the subject, but I believe that has to do with my own upbringing which was fairly religious. Some of that, though, comes from pure misunderstanding and bad assumptions on my part.
I've been able, over the weeks I've been on Mastodon, to really read on the experiences of people within their personal identities.
I've never really struggled with my gender identity.
The closest I've ever gotten is 'Maybe it be neat to be a lady for a few days, just to see what it is like'. Never really got any further than 'curious what that might be like'. I've always been fairly comfortable being who I am, as far as gender is related.
I can only imagine how immensely difficult it must be to have that sort of issue in self-identity. To have to, at one point, ask those questions of yourself before coming to a conclusion on who, or what you are.
Again, to go back to the previous point- I admit some difficulty in wrapping my head around all of it. I want to make it perfectly clear, however, that I agree that gender identity is not binary like biological sex is. This is a fact despite the fuzzy brain cognitive dissonance.
However, I've never been one to look at facts (and everything I'm learning here do seem to be pretty clear facts and *not* opinion) that disagree with my brain's fuzzy 'this ain't right' senses and dismiss them outright. That's the dissonance talking, after all.
Very clearly there are people who are, for whatever reason, not the same gender as their biological sex might suggest.
Anyways, hopefully no one will mind if I ask them questions and try to get to know how it is for them. I do truly and honestly want to know and to connect with other people and find both the unique and beautiful in them, as well as the common denominator that will connect us as individuals.
I really want to learn more, because I have a lot of questions and want to understand as best as I'm able.
There are a group of people out there who are often suffering. I know what it is like to suffer (Thanks Mr. Bipolar type 2) and if there is anything I can do to alleviate that suffering- even if it's just to be a friend who will love you unconditionally. I can't promise to wholly understand, but I can promise to listen. To be there if you need an ear.
Anyways, I'm still learning and I hope those of you who are willing to teach me and be my friend will be patient with me. I can promise the same.
And, again, I'll be happy to listen if you just need an ear. I'm not a therapist or anything like that, but I know how important it can be to just have someone listen sometimes.
Love,
Dave in Tel Aviv.
@Surasanji
How strange - my reply inherited your CW. I didn't mean to do that.
@intensity All replies carry the CW warning by default if the parent toot was CWed. That's just how it works. :)
Learning about Trans community, CWed for length
@intensity While this is also true, the issue with the chromosomal aspects and genetic aspects there is that they are oddities and not standard. Those are disorders, mutations, and anomalies where it relates to the genetics of male versus female in human beings.
Trans identity may, certainly, be connected to those sorts of abnormalities in one's genes or physical self- but I feel like transexuality is specifically NOT a disease or disorder and doesn't present itself in that same vein.
I do imagine that there are greater numbers of mental health disorders among the Trans community, but not specifically because they are Transexual (As this, again, is not a disorder or a disease. It's just who they are.) but rather a function of their environment, and society's treatment of this group of people.
Being treated like shit and forced to act in a way that doesn't feel natural to one's self is a sure fire way to get a good case of the fucked up head, in my opinion and experience.
So, in short, I'm not sure I agree with the statement regarding biological sex, but more research is likely warranted to find examples that are not due to disorders, syndromes, or other anomalous actions within the physical and biological side of things.
Once more, I'd like to make perfectly clear: One's sexual and/or gender identity is *not* an illness or disease when it does not match with one's biological sex or heteronormative standards. I'm just not so sure that pointing out that a very, very small group of people don't follow the standard biological template is a good or helpful point of reference as it would, in my opinion, lead some people to believe that previously mentioned gender/sexual identities are somehow intrinsically connected to what amounts to a biological fluke.
Learning about Trans community, CWed for length
@Surasanji So actually, biological sex is not binary either. Not in animals and not in humans.
There are more possibilities than XX/XY.
And it turns out, chromosomes don't always determine biological sex either! See "androgen insensitivity syndrome".
Kudos for being open. There is always more learning to do.