Becoming a parent has forced me to come to terms with the finiteness of my time, mental, and emotional energy, in terms of getting things done. It's humbling. Honestly, I'm very privileged in what I have to work with.
Some days, I feel like I'm crushing it. Other days, I feel like I can't get anything done. I try to be at peace with whatever I can do, because I do feel that in the long arc, I get the important stuff done. Even if it never actually feels enough and there's always an immense amount of things left undone.
But that's the trap, isn't it? If there even are people out there that can do it all, they must be so few, and everybody else just feels like they're failing. Most of us are getting by, and I think that's just fine.
@acjay
>>Becoming a parent has forced me to come to terms with the finiteness of my time, mental, and emotional energy, in terms of getting things done. It's humbling. Honestly, I'm very privileged in what I have to work with.
<< This spectrum is wide and circumstances vary between individuals based mostly on external factors.
>>Some days, I feel like I'm crushing it. Other days, I feel like I can't get anything done. I try to be at peace with whatever I can do, because I do feel that in the long arc, I get the important stuff done. Even if it never actually feels enough and there's always an immense amount of things left undone.
<<Dissatisfaction in one's efforts after they become parents is actually very common.
>>But that's the trap, isn't it? If there even are people out there that can do it all, they must be so few, and everybody else just feels like they're failing. Most of us are getting by, and I think that's just fine.
<< Don't live your life by other people's standards. Live your own life, setting your own bar- always raising it because you're always growing.
@lucifargundam Yep, agree with all those things.
One thing I practice is acknowledging the emotions I have, whereas I used to be frustrated by them and try to suppress them.
So I try to make decisions by my own standards, knowing that I'll feel whatever I'm going to feel, and that's alright.
