@twizzay For all compliments or just ones that seem over the top or not genuine?
Honestly, it's whenever I think given compliments are somehow true about who I am/my character.
Whether it is genuine or half-hearted makes no difference. It's whether or not I believe it that seems to tick me off.
lol I gues that makes compliments kind of dangerous around me. I generally don't outwardly express these feelings because I know people mean well. But, I do scoff about it later.
I guess Im not comfortable thinking positively about my character.
I don't really know why. I can rationalize it a bunch of ways, but in the end, it simply makes me frustrated.
I suppose, I don't believe I am a very good person? Or maybe it's just that I don't want to believe that I am a good person.
@twizzay Interesting stuff. I heard about not liking compliments, have a tiny bit of it too, but this reasoning is new to me.
Sounds a bit like the "i take all responsibility to myself, am never good enough" stuff, maybe?
@twizzay Would you say that the "inability to overcome" could be seen as trauma, in the sense of "feeling helpless in the face of a grave danger"?
It would fit well with what my (amateur) experiences with similar things are. Like affirmation tells you you can relax, but that is connected to the helplessness before? Your last paragraph sounds very much like that.
I wonder if specific affirmation, constricted to one topic and "up to now" being adequate would be any different?
Yeah, I would say that probably sums it up. Trauma from being jailed by my vices made me sensitive to the idea of 'no need to improve' due to a time when I couldn't improve no matte how hard I tried.
Mmm, something like "I am good at throwing candy bars to kids on this Halloween night”? Maybe?
lol yeah, I guess that doesn't bother me.