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I assure you, it wouldn't be a different response. I'd still dare him to play something, hoping he'll take the dare and let me hear some of his music and we'd have a good time.
I won't bother you anymore though, just felt like pointing this out. I have no idea why your sex or gender is part of the matter
@arteteco i feel you man. Some of us have just been thru shit. I hope u undertand
@kambing Uh? Sorry, I'm not sure I understand, you are having a bad time too because of what I'm writing?
I really don't get what I'm doing wrong here. You can check my post history, I'm as calm and respectful as it gets
@arteteco hey im sorry i gave you the impression that im blaming you, i am not. I was trying to say that some women are quick to assume these things because its been beaten into them. This kind of quick accusation and response is a result of other people actually being rude. However, I can see that you yourself meant no harm. I hope you understand.
@kambing I see what you mean. I'll just ignore it, I don't want to get into a useless fight.
Just, as we are in the topic, would be nice to take into consideration that also I may feel harmed, and that jumping to conclusion and giving me blame and accusing me for a silly, innocent comment could make me feel bad and sad for most of my day and more.
Luckily, I'm stable enough not to care, but the next shy, emotionally weak person may not be. Regardless of the sex or gender, which was for me totally out of the blue.
I can give others understanding, I'd like to have it in return, hope if you are here to pacify things can understand that
@arteteco I totally get you. I understand that wrong accusations are really hurtful. I guess my goal is to just spread the word that some people are traumatized and it's hard for them to unlearn such behavior, and that patience with them will help them get out of such behavior. But seriously, I totally get that being wrongfully accused and shamed for things is really damaging. I'm glad that you aren't bothered though.