@hilarybaumann @vollans it's true that we can't connect (yet) and it's true that somebody put qoto on their bad boy list (though no-one seems to know why!) but we have yet to prove that the two things are connected. And to be fair, even if they are you could find your own server unjustly labelled in the same way I guess!
@hilarybaumann @bykimbo @vollans Just keep in mind that there are servers blocking one-person servers by default.
You can't please everybody. 
so the way around that is I host x number of fake people or X number of real friends /family to get around those that block servers with only one user.
Any way it goes, that’s better IMO than being on someone’s naughty list for no obvious reason.
I’m also now set up on mastodon.world and if no one can figure out why Qoto has been put on the naughty list and get it back off I’m probably going to bounce over there for a minute then decide to stay or just set up usernames I don’t care about to lurk.
@hilarybaumann @bykimbo @vollans Whatever you fancy. :)
Ultimately you decide where you want to settle. And I hope you'll be happy with whatever you decide on, take care!
@bykimbo If you both can follow each other without issue, and upon rechecking are still followed, you're probably not blocked.
Their server doesn't display which servers they block, but my bet is on 'not blocked'.
@trinsec I could see him but he couldn't see me. He's now created another account on qoto and we can connect. Apparently his first server has an enthusiastic block list!
@bykimbo Yeah, we don't like blocking around haphazardly for this reason. The users have the tools available to block whole domains already.
Hope this is resolved?
@trinsec he's left with two accounts at the moment so that will need to be resolved somehow, but at least we can connect now, thanks.
@bykimbo Some people have multiple accounts for multiple circle of connections. It isn't uncommon to have more than one account. :)
But if he really wants to stick to one (which is reasonable!) then yeah you might want to figure some things out. ;)
@bykimbo @vollans
Has she tried putting the address of your home page, https://qoto.org/@bykimbo, into her search box and then clicking through from there. She may find a Follow button. I had to do this with one or two friends that I had been unable to find otherwise.
@AllSerene @vollans I think he tried everything but he's opened an account on the same server as me now so at worst a temporary fix. Thanks x
@AllSerene He has - the issue is that aus.social has "suspended" federation with a load of different servers. I've had to open an account here to communicate with my friends. It all seems a bit counter to the idea of open and free communications, a bit like the old Deja News service in the 90s.
@bykimbo @vollans annnd if this is true this just gave me an extra kick to potentially set up my own server because I don’t want to be tied to /punished for the behavior of a community and I want a stable username / handle.