The older I get the more I’m just like “I don’t totally know what love means”
I mean I know what it means to *me* but it often seems like that doesn’t align with what it’s “supposed” to mean and that is very confusing.
Like I feel a lot of affection for quite a few people, sometimes strongly familial, sometimes delightfully platonic, sometimes passionately erotic, and… that all feels like love?
But then it feels like if you’re “in love” with someone you’re supposed to want all this stuff.
@luxalptraum
IMHO we need completely different words for at least four different things: being extremely fond of someone and enjoying being with them and wanting nothing but the best for them; wanting to sort of merge at least parts of your practical everyday life with theirs; wanting to do the sex with them; and finally wanting to possess and control them and prevent them from loving anyone else in any or all of the other senses.
The current narrative is that those are basically all the same thing, and that leads to some real pain and suffering!
