@pschwede What he said or how he said it might determine if he is worthy of contempt or not but would not change the contempt for what she said.

If we agree its a sexist term (which we dont, so we would have to debate that point first).. Then her saying it is inappropriate regardless of what she was responding to.

Its no different than the unexcusable use of the word "nigger", if someone use that in a derogatory way towards another person then it is never acceptable regardless of the reason. I would say anytime we deal with prejudice language towards a sex or race this holds true.