Honestly I dont know where they get this nonsense from... We have explained why we dont defederate, and it is at the request of the LGBTQ community here and for their physical safety, I will not compromise on that. I outline that here:
https://qoto.org/@freemo/109319817943835261
As for being nasty and horrible hate speech side of the fediverse, we have pretty aggressive and explicit anti-hate speech rules here. Its no surprise when people throw around that lie about us when asked to point out a single example of hate speech on our server they are unable to find even a single instance of it.