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I've got a #FediBlock to discuss: qoto.org

We've had them blocked for years due to harassment from their admin directed toward our instance, users, me specifically, & the same to other instances.

Plus, their CoC leaves a lot to be desired

Several folks this week asked about them, and we have a rule to not share block reasons for dogpiling and harassment.

I DMd a response to someone who asked about it, and wouldn't you know it, but I received an email from them asking about the block

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@david I’m on qoto I had no idea I’m so sorry you have to (re) live through this 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

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@tonic it's a huge instance, and has always been bigger than ours. I'm sorry that we're excluding a large portion of the fediverse. But the admin has got to go before we reconsider.

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@david totally understandable - you're doing great :rainbow_flag:

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@tonic

Would be great if he could mention this harassment... CauseI looked through every bit of my interaction history with him and all i find is me constantly reaching out to be nice to him. Here are examples:

qoto.org/@freemo/1036119274149

qoto.org/@freemo/1038756354553

qoto.org/@freemo/1035404758126

qoto.org/@freemo/1037552993049

qoto.org/@freemo/1038952887859

qoto.org/@freemo/1036873716109

I could litterally list a100 more positive interactions of me reaching out trying to be nice and supportive and cant find a single one of me "attackingn" him.

Yet not one post could i find of me "harassing him" and i just spent a while looking... It doesnt help he has never once mentioned to me any concerns, never reported, nothing for me to know what he is talking about... regardless if he felt that way I am deeply sorry. But if he doesnt want to engage i cant force him.

@david

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@tonic

I think I found the only post he could have possibly meant by "harassment". I want to post it here for the record, as this was the last communication we had before his server blocked me.

In short he had boosted an inflammatory (and outright lie) about QOTO. It was about one of our features and it lied about how itt worked in order to frame us as privacy violating, despite the feature respecting post privacy.

Since me and David at this point were on very good terms as far as I knew I was personally hurt by this but responded respectfully. I even made sure to do it in private so he didnt feel attacked. Attached our the interactions from me that he considered "harassment", as you can see I went out of my way to be considerate.

@david

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@freemo seems you handled that with grace and sincerity to me 🤷🏻‍♂️ the main point for me is that it’s a (pretty huge?) misunderstanding - I didn’t see anything about it but I would basically be uncomfortable if any part of this story was had some kind of discrimination around it… hey , the future is bright , maybe with a bit outreach and openness y’all can put the past behind you - but everything on its own time 😅 keep up the good spirit 💪🏻💪🏻

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@tonic I appreciate that, but clearly david isnt listening, and is making it a point to sling dirt without showing links or screen shots... So I dont expect them to be remotely reasonable... I am always happy to talk and work things out, so if and when they are im always happy to forgive and forget.

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