I would love to undertand better the reason/psychology/development of some homosexual men to speak in that distinctive way of speaking that seems exclusive to gay men. Like it isnt an accent, and doesnt seem to occur naturally since its exclusive to that group. Do gay men make it a point to learn to speak that way at some point? If so why?

My best guess is as a way to show their orientation publicly to signal to other gay men, in an effort to creat connections or find companions that are also gay? But that would imply its a conscious thing they learnedto do at some point?

PS please no inconsiderate responses. Be respectful people.

@freemo
My amateur take; I don't think it is to signal that they are gay, but to make themselves more attractive to some other types or gay men. Speech, mannerism, grooming and fashion in a complete package.

Some women are doing the same thing to attract straight men that appreciate such.

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@niclas

So that way of speaki g is just somehow attractive to what gay men want? Hmm that would explain why it is hard for me to ubderstand, but makes sense if thats the case.

@freemo

I am not sure about it, but my simple conclusion from watching my gay brother's friends.

@niclas

Ive talked about it with gays before and most seem curious about what causes it as well. That said i never heard the perspective about it from someone who expresses themselves in that way. Obviously it woukd be awkward to ask directly. Would be awesome if such a person sees this and feels compelled to join in.

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