@chronomyst@jorts.horse I second that.

Also people similar or just everyone is destined to clash or be too picky, so the aim as I see it is to do this better almost as if it was therapy / anger management.

And yes hate / debt is what is pushed around and the material used commonly from top to bottom therefore a kind of normal in this system currently.
But my aim is to reverse that polarity somewhat knowing some will want to stay where they are and not love each other or do it for what they do to that extent and come out of hate and ignorance and being tired / overwhelmed with kids / etc....

I could be totally wrong, so take comfort in that also :)