"get to know you" but using their way, not yoru (at least at the beggining)...
Seems like nobody really wants to do the work of "get to know you" on your terms or the limited way you want to do it - only a more robotic way- tell me x y otherwise I'm going to have major suspicions even though what you told me is personal to you.
That feeling that "The next best thing or person to come along" to still means you won't be accepted because nobody really wants to do the work with you, just kind of at you or without you.
The way you want to do it - might not be the way I do it - it's not only a more robotic way - it's my whole being with it. But anyway... that's where we're at - high cut off points / almost an insult to do some other etiquette than mention your name address date of birth and those kinds of lists.
