A very close friend was found dead today.
He lived alone, and we believe it happened a few days ago.
He always struggled with depression and other conditions but never stopped to be a singular character. We all are in our early 40s.
I cannot stop thinking the last time our group did a video call, I hang-up shortly after only saying hi. It was meant to be a joke, instead it was our last interaction.
This is your daily reminder to treasure every second of those who you appreciate, and to reach out for help if you need too.
People are only appreciated moreso when they are gone sometimes... (all is said caringly but not the skipping realism which we all suffer with but don't always give time every day to solve)... so I appreciate your post.
@mapache Hard one. I appreciate the post.
At the same time:
People are only appreciated more sometimes when they actually gone.
"Oh my God, why... ?"
"Was such a xyz person and always a xyz person - wouldn't hurt a fly" but they wouldn't necessary support them / give time or go deep. It hurts the brain to do that kind of stuff with deeper people. Today it's just hi and by, close the door.
I do not undervalue each one of us by saying the problems but legends or great people often only when they are gone too even when so obvious, so it shows amazing people writing books and people still wouldn't get it.
And generally we're up against it yes with everyone else so not even your / my fault always proportionately. All is wrong and needs righting / clarifying. communication.
So who is with that kind of thinking? Not many. I'd say near-0.
People busy with #Tech more than #People.
Until something is lost we're all generally of little value and increasing monetary cost - We can give ourselves more value, but at our own risk - and that's why people go - they actually value themselves.
As Jimmy Carter said - Our identity is by what we consume... and less what we give meaning (I will upload that soon). Culture going, fast...
It's both natural and also an evolutionary thing we have to grow as a society (as a larger community) - to hold each individual as high value else all be a #disposable battery for what seems to help us survive, but is empty.
That person by today's current standard is better off in many ways, no longer participating in the bad, the real opt-out from everything being so pre-loaded, pre-planned and caring steralised / cut out. #Capitalism / #Plutocracy etc...
They are no longer trapped - might be no longer alone as spirit flies. Even a working life is quite alone unable to express anywhere or progress even at physical places with seemingly 100s of others. Just work and rent. Respect for people, gone.
This is not an insensitive post.
Most of would do the same over and over again until we see again how serious it is and effects us, and even then move on. We're in the same depressive boat and go to work for the baddies.
I too offer help to anyone reading.
Who here wants to solve all that or give friendship in their free time? (tumbleweeds pass by)
That's the circle group type therapy we all need to do each week - yes hi, my name doesn't matter but what I care about does...
P.S
The way I found this post is after reposting my own "Friendship System" or "System of Love" idea https://qoto.org/@freeschool/113810868710146225
So although I can write about problems I also have the fixes as "Make friends with the world" and shows I cared a long time before and well most people don't want to do love or even to face reality as anyone see's it to rebuild in mind first.
I've tried literally my whole life with every person I could online and offline - maybe 30 overall stuck for 10+ emails as strangers or even family shirking the deeper or yes unresolvable stuff - maybe 5 long term still there to at least not block communication. Just the way it is until people focus on it...
So there's my post if interested in friendship building - yes with the whole world...
