People need time with this 'togetherness' thing as 'humanity' itself... I get that and online isn't easy but is there anything else can I do?

It feels like the more you try, the more people are feeling something also which shows it's not ideal for people like me.. it seems impossible to separate feeling itself either way right so let's just deal with it!

Everyone could take only 1 thing and roll with it and not feel too much (hard as that sounds as there is perhaps a lot to sift through).

I don't want to censor or shorten myself more than short title in a CW (show more button).

I don't understand why for a lot of these things listed below that it regularly doesn't work on the internet or #Fediverse (years now even since using email, websites from people wanting contact etc!)

Those seemingly PERFECTLY aligned and talk to others - not with me much. It is almost like the more shallow you are the better? Titles and names I agree come first (for them) but the future is better less named for now,

I don't want to conclude people are a complete flop or dud but seems so...

Anyway give your opinion or any guesses...

1 why like-minded people might be exactly the people most skeptical or like a polar magnet not wanting to won't team up with those similar (feel threatened or competitive I guess) or can't go deeper in testing me / people to increment a bit more if can't trust from the get go.

2 why people might block me straight away or won't even tell me why!

3 why people might not reply so even short messages (a lot is long but is there more to just lax / dead fish people online ?)

4 why on the internet is full of pseudonyms and avatars but still today people are feeling something about accounts with name and passport ID (ok just name but seems really similar to passport control where it's name and number or you're suspect). By nature of internet it's not for everyone to be completely doing that and social media provides a lot of someone's profile to answer things so why is name so important when I could fake it instead of nickname / pseudo-name ? Is it all fake until I give my name (and even if it's fake?)

(These things deliberately - I know some will just genuinely lose messages around in their list or forget, or just not ready for 2-way communication ...but for those that are veterans and in the list can you guess why they still can't trust or help build it?)