As you're freely falling through the air you don't feel any force except the wind - but you're also getting *stretched* a tiny amount because gravity is a bit stronger near your feet. This is called a 'tidal force' because it creates tides: for example, water on the side of the Earth facing the Moon is pulled toward the Moon more than water on the opposite side.
As a star falls toward a black hole it can get stretched and even destroyed by this tidal force - we've seen it happen! It can create a huge flare of radiation.
But surprisingly, the bigger the black hole, the smaller the tidal force is near the event horizon. We could be falling through the event horizon of a truly enormous black hole right now, and we'd never notice - though I consider this very unlikely.
More importantly, a star like the Sun will only get disrupted *before* it crosses the event horizon if the black hole is < 100 million solar masses. Otherwise it will get sucked in and be lost to sight without any drama!
The big black hole in the center of our galaxy is only 4 million solar masses, so this 'silent death' doesn't happen here. But it happens elsewhere. The biggest black hole known is 66 *billion* solar masses!
Black holes emit flares of light that we don't understand. Some must be from stars falling in. But many flares show very little light in hydrogen's spectral lines! This talk is pretty fun, and it's all about these mysteries.
@johncarlosbaez "We could be falling through the event horizon of a truly enormous black hole right now."
I've been always puzzled by this. Surely you'd see the horizon as a black surface coming at you, since no light can escape the black hole. And once your legs get past the horizon, you'd lose the feeling in them forever. Although the math inside a black hole gets really crazy, so I don't know how much I can trust my intuitions.
@BartoszMilewski - trust the equivalence principle: any small enough patch of spacetime is indistinguishable from Minkowski spacetime for a free-falling particle.
If you fall through the event horizon of an enormous black hole with your arm outstretched before you, your hand doesn't disappear as it crosses the horizon. But if you use rockets to hover outside the horizon and stick your arm in, it gets ripped off and disappears from view.
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If my hand doesn't disappear, it means I can see things in front of me, including the singularity? What does the singularity look like?
@BartoszMilewski - light never comes out through the horizon, yet your outstretched hand doesn't disappear as you fall in a big black hole. Explain!
You never see the singularity, even from inside a black hole, because it's always in your future.
@BartoszMilewski - both these questions can be answered using the Penrose diagram of a black hole. Light moves at 45 degree lines. Think about what happens when you and your outstretched arm fall, at less than light speed, through the horizon! You are always looking back in the past along 45 degree lines.
@johncarlosbaez But presumably @BartoszMilewski's statement that "you'd see the horizon as a black surface coming at you" is true at some level, because what you see in the distance is not only a function of local spacetime (unless you're inside an enclosure, which is the usual conceit of equivalence principle thought experiments).
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This is NASA simulation of a fall into a black hole. It shows a black wall.
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So you see my confusion: If the approaching horizon looks like a black wall, you shouldn't be able to see your hand that has just crossed it.
@internic @BartoszMilewski - right, as you approach the horizon it looks dark except perhaps for Einstein rings.
From a distance: