SAO was okay in the first season, even the second season, but then it became a bit like *The New Gate* (which I've read).
It seems novel but then if you've seen like dozens of books with a "virtual world" premise, "transported to another world" premise, or other such premise, then it looks a bit plain, especially when other titles have gone way past it to add their own flavors to the idea.
I think people underestimate just how many of these books there are.
I won't say that every show has to be cerebral, that it has to be critically acclaimed, and serious in nature (that would be boring).
And honestly, if someone likes SAO, just as someone might like some of these Hollywood films, then that's cool. I think this sort of story has an appeal to a whole lot of people.
This is simply my experience with it.
Also, Kirito himself doesn't have that much of a personality / backstory. He's a fairly plain character. In other titles, the characters are fleshed out more.