transmisia probably, social, advice request, technically subtooting someone not present
so uh
what do you do with someone who “feels deeply uncomfortable around trans creatures” and “will never fully understand or accept them” but “will support them as best I can” and “would never deny those rights to anyone”?
(please reply to the next post so that replies stay together when I delete this post)
transmisia, advice request
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transmisia, advice request
Disclaimer: I'm coming at it from a POV of thinking about parallels I can understand better, so I might be just wrong in some pretty stereotypical ways.
tl;dr that's very little information about someone's approach and it seems unreliable when understood perfectly literally
If I cared about communicating with such a person at all, I'd try to understand what is the discomfort trigger, e.g. by weird thought experiments. Would they be uncomfortable around an alien? An alien going out of its way to adopt human culture? Would they be uncomfortable speaking via text with a person of unspecified gender (assuming their native language allows for doing that without contortions)? Speaking with an actor "in role" or one that they more strongly associate with the role who's not "in role" at that time? (If this is about plural people in particular: how does this compare with speaking with identical twins that they can't distinguish?)
I'd also have lots of skepticism about the "will never understand" statement. I'm pretty sure ~no one means such statements literally (as very strong predictions of the future) when they say them. They usually either mean "I don't understand it now and so can't imagine myself understanding it, because imagining that requires understanding the thing in the first place" or "I do not wish to understand, so will actively avoid doing things that would lead to it".
If it's the former, then it might all be an issue of too little information that might slowly change over time and the whole figuring out of how-do-we-communicate-so-that-we-both-find-it-fine-enough would hopefully be looking for temporary arrangements. If it's latter that figuring out would probably be looking for permanent arrangements.
(If that's useful or interesting: the most vivid parallel I was thinking of was relations with people who find it natural and obvious that everyone should be curious of random things in their environment at all times and expect others to be like that.)
I might have completely misunderstood the point of your question. If so, I'd appreciate if you told me so, but don't feel obliged to do so.
