i've been adding a lot of "rules" to my posts on here about what kind of replies I want ("no starting arguments!” "no explaining what a git commit is!”)

Here's a thread about why! Some of my goals are:

1. have nuanced discussions & stay on topic
2. hear from a diverse set of people
3. learn new things about how people use computers

let’s talk about each of them!

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goal 1 is: have nuanced discussions! stay on topic!

When I started writing about git on here, every single time I made a post, people would reply with a HUGE range of thoughts and opinions about git which were totally unrelated to the question I asked.

This was a problem because it meant we could only have extremely surface level-discussions, and people’s hot takes were VERY repetitive. It felt like I was in a time loop — I even made a bingo card about it wizardzines.com/comics/git-dis

(2/11)

When I say things like “please do not reply saying that you prefer rebase over merge”, it’s not because I think people who prefer rebase are “wrong”.

It’s because I’m trying to dig deeper and have a more nuanced discussion about a specific topic and I don’t want a very common opinion (“rebase is better than merge!”) to drown out other perspectives.

(3/11)

goal 2 is: hear from a diverse set of people!

I spent about 16 years on Twitter. Over time, I noticed that the people in my replies became pretty homogenous: for example I heard from women much less often than I wanted to.

I eventually realized that this was because I was allowing people to behave in a variety of unpleasant ways in my replies that was offputting.

(4/11)

So when I say things like “please don’t start weird arguments, please don’t explain what a git branch is to someone who didn’t ask you to, please don’t imply that everyone who uses computers in a different way from you is dumb and wrong”, that’s not only because I find those behaviours offputting.

It’s also because it drives away the people who I want to hear from.

(5/11)

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I really appreciate that, in all cases I remember, you are more specific than "don't start weird arguments", and would be happy if you continued that.

(The reason for my appreciation is that being more specific (a) helps me not fret on whether what I intend to do follows the request (b) intimates that specificity and directness are part of norms of the space, so let's me fret less about people being unhappy with what I'm doing without telling me that in an effective fashion.)

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