@sim a certain amount of loneliness and isolation is necessary for individuals, i.e. those for whom conformity to the culture that surrounds them is not enough.
if you try to define your social relationships on those terms it's always going to be something of a vicious circle
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"Hitherto, man has been the man of the future in embryo, so to speak - all the forces for development in that direction can be found in him; and because the forces are prodigious, for the modern individual, the more he determines the future, the more he will suffer. This is the deepest view of suffering: the forces for development get in each other's way.
"We must not be deceived by the isolation of the individual - in truth, some tendency deeper than these individuals continuously runs through them. The individual may feel isolated, but that part of the process serves as the most powerful spur towards the most distant aims: it is his pursuit of his own happiness that tempers these forces and gives them coherence so that they do not destroy each other."
- §686, The Will to Power, Friedrich Nietzsche