@thj@mastodon.cloud I also find that if you give people you're whole heart and love before they had to earn it in anyway, just as some requirement for a relationship with someone you just met a few weeks or months ago, you set yourself up for illusion. Its an easy way to fool yourself and them into feeling and seeing things that arent true.

If anything this diminishes the quality of the love rather than enhancing it.

While I may "make love" more rarely now and everything else is casual sex, when I do "make love" it is far more intense and meaningful then it ever was as a kid where I loved a new woman every few months when one would come around.