Reply guys are a menace on here. I wrote this for when one of them comes into your mentions so you can link it. In my experience, about 90% of the time, you'll get an apology. The other 10%, you can now block with a clean conscience. https://anotherangrywoman.com/2023/01/18/how-to-give-advice-on-the-internet-without-being-an-utter-menace/
@stavvers While reading your post, what I noticed most was that the behaviour you're describing as "abhorrent" is... totally normal among male-to-male interactions. We *constantly* give each other unsolicited advice and push each other to improve (that probably makes up at least 30% of all male-to-male conversations). When another guy gives advice that I don't want, I just roll my eyes and ignore him.
Given this, it's easy to see why so many of us have trouble switching contexts to the female perspective.
@LouisIngenthron It's not really the same thing. Men giving unsolicited advice to women are systematically more insistent, less respectful, and more likely to become aggressive if that advice is not taken than they would be if they were giving the same advice to another man
@tungol Sure, the dipshit ratio is never zero, and that behaviour should never be tolerated.
But saying that you can't ever offer unsolicited advice because some dudes are dicks about it is like saying you shouldn't ever protest because some people riot. Just because there's a wrong way to do something doesn't mean we should discourage the right way.
