@eldritch_cookie It's possible you might be better suited to a smaller instance, or an instance that censors others more aggressively. Maybe even different software like MissKey or Friendica. All are legitimate choices, and if you're not happy definitely check out alternatives. It's part of what makes the fediverse so cool.
I agree with you though that getting started can be hard. Search is actually that way deliberately. It's supposed to prevent dog piling.
This resource may help you at least familiarize yourself with the general landscape https://github.com/joyeusenoelle/GuideToMastodon/
@b6hydra thanks for the links, also i think you are right i probably will be happier in another software, i had lots of good interactions with friendly people but the federated timeline is just so bad.
And i think i have a mismatch with mastodon, although i like the idea of following some people and seeing all their posts ,
i find it increasingly obvious that i don't like it being the default way of interacting with people.
i am already liking the fediverse as i will still be able to interact with the cool people i am following even if i switch to friendica or hubzilla,
actually hubzilla seems to be the most full featured fediverse galaxy it's a shame that it seems like all hubs are in languages i don't know. so i will probably go use friendica.
now that i think about it most people in the fediverse are using mastodon. well at least people can switch easily.
@eldritch_cookie Mastodon is definitely popular but if it's not for you that's ok.
Hubzilla does have a ton of features. I found it to be overkill for my needs, still a cool project though. The developers don't like to invite comparisons but if I had to, I'd say friendica and hubzilla are more like facebook (macro-blogging) while mastodon is obviously like twitter (micro-blogging). It also depends how you use it of course. There's also diaspora which uses it's own protocol and doesn't federate with mastodon.
Tbh the federated timeline isn't great anywhere in my experience. It's every post from every person that is being followed by someone on your home server. It's inevitable that a lot of the content won't interest you unless you're on a small niche server yourself.
Anyway glad I could help with the links. Hope you're able to settle in somewhere you like.
@eldritch_cookie Also this if you're looking for people to follow https://communitywiki.org/trunk