you may get the pound of flesh from HR but then literally nobody is ever going to speak to you again
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Is the fact that he was Muslim relevant at all though? Seems the same anecdote leaving that out would have been just as true and relevant.
@freemo As @icedquinn said, people just take their risks. You don’t have that issue between male-to-male work
I really dislike sex harassment at work, it’s uncomfortable when someone makes unnecessary touching, but reaching to the point of suing people only to get some money it’s gross.
Me Too movement was witch hunting, even using strong words (under work context) could be interpreted as sex harassment. You know, patriarchy and that bullsht.
For now, most males just will avoid females at work, it’s safe, it doesn’t bring any lawsuit, makes your working time healthy.
>For now, most males just will avoid females at work, it’s safe, it doesn’t bring any lawsuit, makes your working time healthy.
If they're too socially retarded to understand women's boundaries, sure, they better just avoid women entirely.
At my workplace, the vast majority of women and men get along really well. I even asked out two of my female coworkers at different times and remained good friends with one and good coworkers with the other after being rejected.
There's one guy from the company that co-occupies the building who got into mild trouble, and that one definitely deserved it. At least two women complained about him over the years and he really is a total douche.
I have couple of "kinda feminist" friends, and they always complain at every job how their bosses or coworkers are making sexual harassment to them in the way they talk, even saying "you look great with that dress" they will consider it sexual harassment.
So, in perspective, don't talk about how they look, don't invite them to eat or coffee, avoid hotheaded discussions, avoid socializing too much with female coworkers, and you will have zero risks to be classified as shtty person because "their boundaries".
Commenting on a female coworker's dress literally *is* inappropriate unless you're on friendly terms with her, and you better think carefully about whether you really are, especially if you're an authority figure.
Inviting someone to a private date is appropriate only if you're not higher than her on a hierarchy, or if you're *really* sure that you're on friendly terms despite the hierarchical work relationship.
You can socialize with people without having "hotheaded" discussions.
@socjuswiz @icedquinn @freemo Yeah, but women can do that and that’s not sexual harassment. Why? Because women can’t make inappropriate comments of course.
What’s a friendly term? Who defines that boundary? It always depend of interpretation. Males don’t have that problem each other.
I had female coworkers who said to me “you look good” or “you look nice” after a new haircut or new dress style, and that OK. Why is inappropriate when a man does that? Why that’s not a problem between males?
The problem on your reasoning its based in a lot of “you must assume the other person thinks that”, and it’s impossible to know how the other person thinks, to avoid any problem it’s better just to avoid women at work. No assumptions, no risks.
If you seriously don't understand the power dynamics between women and men which make such cases vastly inequal, I don't think I can teach you that over fedi posts.
You better just keep staying away from women just to be safe.
Maybe reading some feminist literature or history, or listening to the life experiences of women, especially older women, could help, if you actually want to understand.
@socjuswiz @icedquinn @freemo Yeah, I believe on true gender equality, so I don’t give a fck if you are female or male for most things, but still would avoid interacting with women at work as much as I can to prevent any problem.
I keep my work professional, so I don’t like wasting my time “how to interact with males” and “how to interact with females”. Take your risks, and avoid them as much as possible.
You cannot have gender equality without understanding how the inequality even functions / without even being able to see the inequality.
@socjuswiz @icedquinn @freemo Like which one? What’s that male privilege? Do you have few examples? Urinate standing is no longer a male privilege.
As far I know, if some divorce happens, females get almost everything. If some female makes a serious accusation against a male, it will be assumed true, while if opposite, then will be assumed false by default. If a woman attacks their partner, then male did something wrong, if opposite, then aggressive male bad.
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Strictly speaking the christian bible supports it as well. In practice you will always have some sexist abusers, but the majority of Muslims do not support such things.
@freemo @icedquinn @socjuswiz That’s correct, most Muslims protect a lot women, but at expense of any freedom for them.
At certain Muslim countries, females are just “property”, something I don’t agree ethically, but different country, different culture. That’s a discussion I always have with my girlfriend lol.
I don’t talk or promote freedom on cultures who may not like it.
Ther eis a huge difference between Muslim countries and Muslim immigrants. Most immigrants who come here are doing so because they dont like the choices their country is making in the first place.
As someone who has a great many friends who are Muslim-Americans I can say that I've seen less oppression or abuse out of them towards their wives than the general public. Usually any lack of "freedom" they have (such as covering up) is something the wife themselves desire for themself and adopted long before they were married.
