@waltercool there was a workplace story i heard some years ago where someone was mad at the local muslim. he lost his temper and then removed himself from the room (good) but then the muslim decided to follow him in to the office without giving the guy some time to cool down and then uh. yeah. that was dumb. he gets yelled at and then is like "i should file this with HR!" i dun remember if he did or not but i was just thinking "well that's career suicide but go ahead."

you may get the pound of flesh from HR but then literally nobody is ever going to speak to you again
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@icedquinn

Is the fact that he was Muslim relevant at all though? Seems the same anecdote leaving that out would have been just as true and relevant.

@waltercool

@freemo being a brown muslim gives him extra HR oppression credits for his workplace claim.
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@icedquinn

Ahh, perhaps, sure. Is there reason to think that was the case here though? Did the guy get reprimanded specifically for being prejudice?

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@freemo i don't think i ever found out what happened to the guy. i think the papers just didn't get filed because nothing happened to the other guy either. it's really dumb to persue an angry person trying to disengage from the room.

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@freemo @waltercool the ever looming racism card didn't do as much damage as metoo stuff though. people have basically gotten rid of private offices because of the latter. its possible to defend against a racism claim apparently but a woman can just assassinate your character forever with basically no personal risk to herself.

@icedquinn

Me too had its place in the legitimate cases. the problem with everything feminist is they take it too far and do more harm than good despite having good intent.

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@freemo @waltercool i didn't trust it. too many cases were old. why did they wait out the statute of limitations and then a decade later when there is no chance of doing any evidence discovery suddenly feel the need to press the case? and to make it worse, everyone proceeds with a guilty until proven guilty mindset.

i saw a handful of these and they had a general pattern of "statute of limitations ago, now that this guy has been promoted, this guy touched me a long time ago and should be punished for it now." and you look in to the case notes and there is often like, zero attempts to resolve the issue for ten years.

in the vic case the woman claims to have been raped but then literally goes back to hang out with her alleged rapist again later that same day and hung out with him alone for several hours. i don't know a single damn woman who gets raped and then willingly goes and hangs out with her rapist two hours later.

i dunno. i would feel better if they were timely. some of them are really just stupid, like the ones where there's video footage proving they were not molested but we still have to sit through the harpies guilty until proven guilty'ing even in the face of literal CCTV proving it never happened

@icedquinn

The problem with rape is that there is almost never any evidence. So we really cant judge if a claim of rape is true or not. We cant assume its valid, we cant assume its not. What we can judge is if society reacts based on evidence or not and my main criticism of is that usually an accusation, even without evidence, is enough to ruin someones life. This is a valid concern even if most accusations happen to be true, because we shouldnt be ruining lives over things we cant verify.

@waltercool

@freemo @waltercool well we've had people try to work around it. there was a collection of 'consent apps' and the like (which does turn intimacy in to a lawyer ridden process of 'stop, i need you to sign this sexual release form first') but even that we have bongos now trying to claim that you can have retroactive rape.
@icedquinn @freemo @waltercool I still don't understand why that lawyer ridden process is essentially different from "no sex before marriage"...
@icedquinn @freemo @waltercool
>retroactive rape
Just sounds like they had sex and didn't like it

@1iceloops123

If thats the definition of rape then I'm one of the worse sexual offenders around.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool I don't know just don't like how people make new phrases all the time
@freemo @waltercool basically if projared and alexis kennedy's lives can be completely and thoroughly destroyed by one false claim, and the claimant will never be punished, it's gonna call for a natural inclination to just firewall every female to another department because it's not worth it.

@icedquinn

this is true. As I said the issue with is not that women are lying or telling the truth. Its that we treat it as the truth without evidence.

@waltercool

@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool

As per Occam's Razor, when a woman accuses a man of having sexually harassed her, the most straightforward and therefore most likely explanation is that he did indeed sexually harass her.

The consideration that she's lying requires further explanation as to why she would have done that.

Extraordinary claims (such as "she's lying about sexual harassment to get him in trouble") require extraordinary evidence.

The same goes for any other kind of claim of harassment, such as racist or homophobic harassment.
@socjuswiz that is in no way what extraordinary claims means. extraordinary claims refers to events of unfathomably extreme magnitude (lit. claiming a UFO has landed on your lawn.)

@freemo @waltercool
@socjuswiz since we're abusing modern logic theory the null hypothesis is active at all times (no crime has been committed; innocence) because it is the most difficult to prove that someone has never done anything wrong and we give deference to the negative.

this means the claim against an innocent requires evidence.

@freemo @waltercool
@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool It really felt like the story my mother told about after the war... In some districts there was a witch hunt for collaborators with the enemy.
People started accusing people out of fear of getting accused themselves. Go with the crowd, because you don't want to act suspicious.

@TheMadPirate

Nah the new due process is "Guilty until proven... ya know what, just guilty"

@waltercool @ChristiJunior @icedquinn

@ChristiJunior @TheMadPirate @freemo @waltercool i don't think it's that sinister.

i think bongo mentality is just not capable of executing higher order logic. they unironically use lines like "why would a woman lie" so i don't think it occurs to them sociopaths exist.
@ChristiJunior @TheMadPirate @freemo @waltercool i've seen this kind of thing having to talk to some other lefties i used to deal with. when you start trying to explain deterrence theories like "we have guns because it creates a threat of their use and by extension people refrain from $x bad behavior because there is uncertainty if that house is gonna be the one that shoots them to death" and they literally do not grok how outgroup bad thing can exist with the hope of having it so that you won't need it and just see "outgroup thing bad."
@icedquinn @waltercool the only ones that were real involved jewish hollywood directors and stars. which was a problem.. so they literally hired Roberta Kaplan and other people, and an organization I forget the name of, to go after the accusers and frame them as "crazy" while also throwing up a lot of fucking chaff. I think the false allegations were partially part of that.

"Oh wow, look at all these allegations flying to and fro! Maybe it's ALL bullshit?"
@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool

Pesky women, always taking their desire to end sexual harassment too far!

@socjuswiz

Yea, i mean, when you start accusing people of rape who didnt actually rape you, literally, then it is taking it too far. This shouldnt be a hard concept to understand.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool

And you have proof of that happening on a significant scale, i.e. more than a few unproven anecdotes?
@socjuswiz @freemo @waltercool alexis kennedy, projared, cuba gooding jr, vic mignogna*

* technically his case hasn't been adjudicated because it's still held up in appeals, but i watched the depositions for the case and her story makes no sense
@icedquinn @freemo @waltercool

Before I Google all those names, are they cases of unproven rape allegations, or cases of proven-false rape allegations?
@socjuswiz cuba gooding was literallly accused of molestation while sitting in front of a CCTV camera that recorded footage of him not molesting her.

@freemo @waltercool
@icedquinn @freemo @waltercool

Is this the person you're talking about?

Because given the unlikelihood of *one* allegation being fake, the combined unlikelihood of this many allegations all being fake is extremely slim.
@socjuswiz the odds of a case being completely drawn to trial and then shut down by the jury is about 2% of rape claims in the general case.

this number rises to around 10% when including cases where the woman confessed to fraud (they do this a lot to get out of trouble as teenagers who are trying to hide a relationship and deflect by calling it a rape and then recanting later). it goes up to about 30% if you include the least strict ruleset which involves the cases just being declared dead on arrival for having nothing investigatable or the accusor just refuses to testify at all

@freemo @waltercool

@socjuswiz

There is about as much evidence of false accusations as there are of true ones... The bulk of cases in either category tend to be scarce when it comes to evidence. That is the very problem with treating them as true in the first place.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool

And I'm saying that as per Occam's Razor, the more likely thing is that the allegation is true. That's why it's normal for people to consider it true regardless of whether it can be proven in court and turned into an official punishment.
@socjuswiz @freemo @waltercool they consider it true because men are programmed to want to protect women, not because of a mathematical theorem about multiplications.
@icedquinn @freemo @waltercool

That's bullshit, just look at the number of men out there who screech "lying bitch" as soon as a man they like gets accused.

Whether the general public tends to believe the woman or the man has lots of complex reasons. I'm just giving you my reasoning as to why I'd rather believe the woman / the racial minority / the gay person.

@socjuswiz

to be clear I agree with you here. Assuming a woman who accuses someone of rape is lying is equally as reprehensible as assuming they are telling the truth.

One should not draw conclusions based on a lack of evidence.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@freemo people don't seem to do well with uncollapsed wave functions.

@socjuswiz @waltercool

@icedquinn

This is true. PArticularly in the USA where not taking a side is effectively the same thing as being an enemy of both sides.

@socjuswiz @waltercool

@socjuswiz

Actually ocams razor would imply we should not assume an accusation is true or false and assume that it is unknowable... Ocams razor dictates we must make the choice that makes the least assumptions, therefore we are dictated by ocams razor to not assume a claim to be true or false without evidence.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@freemo the argument seems to be based purely on 'assuming guilt is easiest' but it literally doesn't hold up under bayes or modern logic.

@socjuswiz @waltercool

@icedquinn

Exactly and agreed. There is no logic and simply understanding human nature and its tendency to be petty should make it obvious that most of the time people lie. Assuming honesty with no evidence is a leap in any scenario.

@socjuswiz @waltercool

@freemo @icedquinn @waltercool

The fact that a woman claims that a man harassed her requires an explanation.

Since he cannot have both harassed and not harassed her, there are broadly only two possible explanations:

- He did it (men do that commonly for pleasure, no further explanation needed)

- She's lying (why should she, further explanation is needed)

@socjuswiz

My whole argument is that **some** women who claim they were raped lie, therefore we should not assume they are telling the truth without evidence.

What is more likely: That 100% of all women have told the truth and none of them ever lie or...

Some, maybe even most, have told the truth and that some of them have lied.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@socjuswiz this explanation literally carries the presupposition that males are guilty by default ("men do that commonly") and women are innocent by default ("why would they lie")

occam's razor was developed to select formulas that address the outcome of observations of physical experiments.

@freemo @waltercool

@icedquinn @socjuswiz @freemo This is the sole problem on metoo. Whatever female does is fine, but whatever male does is sexual harassment (even if true or false).

At my country is well known if some women denounce their husband for violence, then police reach automatically and the guy is supposed guilty unless prove innocence. If some male denounce their wife for violence, police will laugh and likely nothing will happen if trial happens.

Same can applied in many things, like teen rape accusations. If the accused is male, likely guilty and long jail time, if the accused is female, likely nothing or easy bail out.

@icedquinn

As far as im concerned there is plenty of sexism in both directions. More than enough abuse for being male or female. You can view either as the victim from the right perspective and neither viewpoint is entierly wrong.

@socjuswiz @waltercool

@icedquinn @freemo @waltercool

Men commonly sexually harass women, that is literally not even up for debate lol.

I'm removing myself from this discussion because arguing against three people at once is tiring, especially since I think all three of you lack even the most basic understanding of sexism / social context.

@socjuswiz

I would imagine all three of us have the same impression of you as completely lacking even the most basic understanding of sexism / social context.

@icedquinn @waltercool

@freemo i dunno. i don't really have any sympathy or care for the majority of the neoleft's concepts of gender politics.

if she says yes its a yes if she says no then stop immediately. end of.

all that other crap about "i'm gonna say yes but i dont actually mean it and/or i did mean it when i said it but i reserve the right to retroactively have been abused" can fuck right off

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