About Asian parents. I reckon that building mental happiness still rely on oneself, despite it could be hard or even impossible to achieve, one should still have a try.
Today I suggested to my parents that we should replace the broken door with a new one. The house is old, but the door is the first one to be broken (of course, in my standard). The door is out of shape and the gravity keeps opening it. Before it can't close, we added a spring to help the door fight against gravity, but due to human error, one day the spring flies away and we never saw it again. To my parents standard, the door is still operable if we find the spring.
However, it's the same people, my parent complained to me during the winter, said the door is out of shape and won't hold any hot air. The room is bloody cold. At that time, I don't have any income yet. But now I have.
I don't know what triggered my parents. Today they desperately want to stop me, not willing to replace the god damn broken door. And I think I was mentally hurt during the conversation.
About Asian parents. I reckon that building mental happiness still rely on oneself, despite it could be hard or even impossible to achieve, one should still have a try.
One thing I discovered in my later years of upbringing, is that parents can be more toxic to your mental health than they are generally nurturing.
I believe you and I discussed your living situation _briefly_ before, so I wont go into detail- but the best thing for yourself would be to sever ties :/
Understandably, since that isn't an option- I would suggest to instead practice emotional boundaries with them. Given they are your parents, this may come as a shock or betrayal- but _your_ long-term health is at stake.
Living your life by anther's means is to be enslaved to their image. Catering to the needs of others will leave your own life starved of your own needs.
