I wish there were more spaces online, and that those spaces made clear and solid declarations about what they offer to the people who opt into using them, and then we felt freer to make anxiety-free and responsible choices about which of those spaces we decided to take part in. This is a common part of life in the physical world, but somehow we’ve decided that all online spaces must be all things to all people
I mean I think the answer is that we still haven’t learned that just because the masonry scales, the humanity does not. But I don’t really have a useful answer for that either
I still love the idea of opt-in social scaling rather than opt-out. Building a federation out of trust, rather than a defederation out of lost trust, feels like useful and loving and productive and fun work
@casey if mastodon came as a standalone server that you could _add_ instances to it would be so much nicer. Instead we get another example of “growth mindset” gone wrong.
@robryk @casey a conversation? Maybe every server has to be a mutual? I just think more deciding what federating with another server means would be good