@freemo "she"
@freemo I assume you are talking about honey bee. If the queen lays a fertilized egg it will be female. Her sterility is based on pheromones and the fact that she will have never had a mating flight, and her diet. Unfertilized eggs will make male (drones) which will not have a stinger. So, if she stung you, she is a she.
Just some bee biology for the morning. :)