Some men learn that women want to "feel safe" around us and take that as "women want a beefy special forces type" and don't realize they just don't want to feel like we might hurt them someday.
There's so much focus on being "manly" in some "not great" ways but that's missing the point.
What they want are signs that we won't eventually become emotionally/financially/physically abusive.
Signs we're emotionally mature and have good communication skills.
Not Rambo.
@Blenster yes. Statistically, our biggest threats don’t jump out at us from bushes— that’s a one in a zillion scenario. Our biggest threats come from those we put our trust in, whether by choice or necessity.
Similarly, when women say they long for a guy that can make them laugh— well, very few people are perpetual wells of sparking wit, really. But with people you can truly relax with, and open up to, you can share a warm belly laugh about anything.
