@freemo It could be that the right wingers have already cut you off and thus missed the survey (or are over on Truth Social and not ever here). Or, it could be due to definitions of "engagement". The extended family members with whom we have chosen not to engage with much see themselves as very tolerant. They are adamantly non racist, they think that they don't even see color. As evangelists, it is their job to inform the rest of the family that certain attributes ("chosen behaviors") such as homosexuality, or beliefs, such as rejecting their version of Christianity or voting Democratic, will lead straight to hell (which to them is a literal place). That's not seen as intolerance, they see it as "love". They very much want to be "family" and engage with us. They would very much want to share a family dinner. But the rest of us couldn't even get to please pass the potatoes without enduring a lengthy prayer for our souls. And really, it is hard to know what to say. The only hope is that there are more open to discussion offspring involved.
@Gaythia yea plenty of explanations. Though in my expiernce the poll is fairly legitimate, the left will block people who disagree with their views pretty quickly politically. the right doesnt, but the right has other issues, they are far more likely to follow you around and troll you instead, so im not sure thats any better.