@Pat fair point on violence. I think of both things as violence. I think of trauma as a long term impact of violence. Not all violence causes trauma. Emotional violence is mostly distinct from physical violence in that it can't cause physical damage. But it can cause physical trauma through psychosomatic effects or second-order impacts on behavior.
But this is all just my preferences on semantics!
@Pat thanks for responding!
I don't think most punishment is necessary. But I should be clearer about what I mean. To me, punishment is the intentional causing of bad feelings or pain as a deterrent for some behavior.
Granted, my oldest is only nearly 6, we've got 4 kids and we really don't do what I would consider punishment, by that definition.
Like, if a kid is abusing some object and doesn't respond to correction, I take it away. Not as a punishment, but as a consequence of the fact that they aren't using it correctly/safely/whatever.
Honestly, it probably doesn't feel hugely different from punishment to a kid in the moment. They usually get sad. This is a side effect, but it can't really be avoided. After the tantrum, I can explain things to help them understand the reasoning.
I think there's a big difference in the long run.
Mastodon has a discovery problem.
There, I said it.
I really like it here and appreciate that the level of discourse is better than Twitter, but 2 problems:
- it feels like I'm not finding new voices frequently at all
- there's no sense of zeitgeist here
Different problems, but I think both related to the lack of algorithms.
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Typo in @washingtonpost hed:
“Biden is running out of time to avoid calamitous debt ceiling outcomes”
In this country, debt is solely Congress’ responsibility.
Better:
“House GOP dishonors oath to protect full faith and credit of the US, puts gun to head of global economy”
Once, a couple cops overheard a buddy and me talking about teaching and one was like, "my hat's off to you. I can cuff someone if they're out of line, but as a teacher, all you have are your wits."
1) He's right
2) The experience of teaching in a tough school was hugely influential on my views on parenting
It's like how if you go to a reputable martial arts dojo, they will teach you that actually using the techniques in a real world situation is only to be done if violence is inevitable.
I'm a huge fan of respectful parenting /gentle parenting / whatever you want to call it.
I get frustrated by misconstrued criticism that the idea is to be soft or permissive. You still have to be the adult. The idea is simply how do you do that without physical or emotional violence. That's what spanking and shouting is. That's what most punishment is (note, this is different from natural consequences).
It's not easy to do, and no one is perfect at it. But I 100% believe this type of parenting works. I've never been more sure of anything in my life.
#parenting #gentleparenting #respectfulparenting #nonviolence
@dtgeek that was a tough one. Bad day for the engineering team, I'm sure.
@schmudde I use the Twitter web experience and it gives me the choice right up top, and seems to remember between sessions. Which I think is new post-Elon.
In Mastodon, what I'd love to see would be an ecosystem of algorithms.
Probs an unpopular thought, but the For You tab on Twitter brings something useful to the table that Following (simple reverse chronological) doesn't, and Mastodon doesn't have an equivalent.
Sometimes I actually do want to know what's getting interacted with and not just what's most recent or who posted most frequently.
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This would be great, hope it happens - #hashtags are a twitter hack that we don’t need to keep reproducing 
https://www.theverge.com/23673125/mastodon-separate-tags-hashtag-navigation-accessibility
@TheWarOnCars I lived on a precinct block. Ours wasn't as egregious as some they discuss in the article, but it's still pretty ridiculous the extent to which the police department that exemplified broken windows policing has so little respect for following the law itself.
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"For people who live near precincts, their most frequent interaction with the police will be observing them breaking the law, forcing them to walk in the street."
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Hello, @nytimes @washingtonpost: When there's a mass shooting, you don't have to quote Republicans like Mitch McConnell and Paul Rand saying that they're praying for the victims. Those quotes add nothing at all to the news
You can simply note that Republican lawmakers offered no new comments or actions in response to [whatever number] mass shooting in the US this year
@caseynewton It continues to amaze me that so many are clinging to a Twitter, as though it's going to get better. 1) it's not. 2) even if it did, the primary beneficiary would be a reactionary gremlin who is already the wealthiest man in the world.
Next season is Welcome to Wrexham is gonna be so much fun
@RadicalRuss makes sense!
Ezra Klein is probably my favorite commentator. I can't say enough about how impressed I am with the way he digs into topics.
Here, he's got the best take I've heard so far on the AI moment we're in.
[Hard Fork] A.I. Vibe Check With Ezra Klein + Kevin Tries Phone Positivity
https://podcastaddict.com/episode/155844506
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